September 7th, 2010
New Beginnings with Unconditional Love
By Cheryl F. Batoon
We are in a constant state of change with endings and new beginnings happening all the time. Once we are able to allow all to be as it was destined to be, we will see those new beginnings in every NOW moment.
As spirits having a human experience, we are challenged daily to release the old hang-ups, pains, sufferings, and embrace a new earth filled with treasures just for our rediscovery. Why do we waste so much time on the past and past life stuff when we have so much to accomplish during this lifetime? Aren’t you ready for graduation? Isn’t it time to finish up all our life lessons so that we can truly frolic in the fountain of everlasting life?
What do you think your life lessons are? What are you focused on? What are your goals? Are you finding yourself moving forward into new beginnings or wallowing in the past and all of its murkiness and muckiness???…Yuckiness actually…(smile)…
New beginnings come wrapped with unconditional love. You may not understand it at the time, but whenever you are faced with the new, it is a GIFT, accept and acknowledge all New Beginnings as Gifts to assist you on your Life Path…your journey is unique to you, but yet your new beginnings are a part of the collective consciousness. All new beginnings are experienced everywhere in complete synchronistic choreography…
Embrace those new beginnings. These new beginnings are comprised of your dreams, your goals, your desires, your wants, your wishes, from years ago or just a few seconds prior. All new beginnings are here now once you release the fear and embrace the new beginnings with unconditional love…
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August 16th, 2010
Understanding the Human Race
By Cheryl F. Batoon
WE are a diverse people, billions of us crowded together on this planet and yet we cannot communicate. Even if we speak the same language, we still cannot communicate. There may be those who speak a completely different language from us and we may have an easier time communicating with them rather than those who speak the same language as us. Why is this?
Words are powerful; however, words are not the reason for hate, words are not the reason for guilt, words are not the reason for shame, it is how those words make us FEEL. The question is why do we FEEL what we FEEL when we hear certain words? Why do we allow words to label us, to validate who we are OR who we are not? The reason words are so powerful is because of the FEELINGS of the people reading or hearing those words. Some people feel indifferent, others feel indignant, and even more may be hurt by the words they read and hear. Again, ALL because of FEELINGS.
In order to understand the Human Race, we must delve deeply within our own soul because the answers reside within. It doesn’t reside in our homes, or workplaces, the beauty parlor, the barbershop, the club, the concert, the gym or wherever. When you enter these spaces and places within your world, you are in-tuned to the vibrations of those around you. Either you allow those vibrations to stir up drama and angst in your heart, or you are filled with love. The vibrations around us set the “tone” for how we will operate in our lives; however, we do not have to allow other’s “tones” to complicate, disguise, and shadow our own. When we give our power to others, we are relinguishing self-control because we are no longer in control of ourselves.
The key to understanding the human race is to know that all reactions are pretty predictable. Have you ever been shocked by something someone said or did? Why were you shocked? If you think about it, you really weren’t shocked. Surprised maybe, but not shocked. What we see in our world is what we know to exist. There is no other way to describe our reality except that WE created it. When we act shocked, there is always a part of us that knew.
This is my point with understanding the human race. All actions are relatively predictable. If they were not predictable, we wouldn’t be where we are today. If our governmental leaders, those who control the purse strings weren’t aware of this, they wouldn’t have been able to create the world they chose for themselves and for all of us. When we are focused on the external, we prepare our responses, our reactions, to the actions of others. This is how we live our day-to-day lives; all primarily based on what external action was taken by others today.
The human race is predictable. Our shadow emotions and responses are predictable. We are as predictable as the Sun that rises and sets each day. Our responses are so predictable that it doesn’t take much to get the entire world up in arms about any and everything. All it takes is some great actors, a few props, and we are hooked…so very, very predictable.
I could pretty much predict how people will respond to certain events in the world and if I can, I’m certain those that hold the purse strings can too. Why are we a predictable society? Why is it that all it takes is one person saying something offensive to obtain a reaction from millions of people? We are so predictable…
What is not predictable is Love. The only way we can understand love as a human race is to FEEL it. If we can’t FEEL it, we don’t believe in it at all. This is why love is unpredictable. Our leaders understand this, those that hold the purse strings understand this, and thus the reason for keeping us focused on the external (outside of our “Four-Cornered Room”) because this keeps us focused on our jobs, buying and selling, ensuring our companies are profitable, and the list goes on. We’ve become predictable automations. Love is the one emotion that is not predictable.
Isn’t it time for change? Do we want to be predictable or do we want to be ourselves? Are we going to reach deep within for the answers that God, the Universe, our Higher Self, or whatever you term to be your Higher Self, would like for us to know OR are we going to continue to allow the external influences to determine how we feel, what we think, and how we respond? Isn’t it time to begin “feeling” for ourselves based on what we know to be true, what resonates for us, rather than what we are incited to feel? Isn’t it time to be our Authentic Selves?
Understanding the human race is very easy. Those who choose to travel their unpredictable path filled with love and compassion will travel their journey smoothly; whereas, those that travel a predictable path will continue to experience negative shadow emotions. Observe for yourself and you will see as well.
The Human Race, easy to predict, but difficult to understand when in a negative state. The Human Race, in a positive state of love and compassion, is no longer predictable because their reactions are based on the Heart, not on the Ego, or the Personality. The Heart is not predictable because the Heart doesn’t respond to external actions, the Heart responds to the love vibrations in self and others. The Ego Mind responds to external actions and is easy to predict because negativity breeds negativity.
Until Human Beings are able to be unpredictable in their reactions because they are no longer basing their reactions on external actions, we will continue to see this cycle of predicability occur over and over again. It is much like karma, if you believe in karma. If we chose to setup lessons in life, we will continue to face those lessons until we learn from them; therefore, let’s release our need to respond to external actions and begin focusing on our hearts, our love vibrations.
With this, we will no longer be a predictable people and those in power, those that hold the purse strings, will no longer be able to claim the predictability of the Human Race…
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June 26th, 2010
Freedom Flies…
By Cheryl F. Batoon
Freedom flies, freedom flies,
Wherever we ride, freedom flies
When we tip the scales attempting
To share our love and light
We often find, like a black hole
We have plunged ourselves into the darkest night
We know that this darkness is temporary
As are all things in the Universe
Yet we attempt to skirt it, to hold it
To savor it, to control it, and all the time we curse
What we forget in the motion of the ocean
Of life as we attempt to survive
Is the emptiness that creates animosity
We feel anger, we feel an unsettled life
We have fought the constraints
We are lifting the limitations
We are moving in the flow of life
Gifting and sharing our ministrations
Freedom flies, freedom flies,
Wherever we ride, freedom flies
Although our world is in chaos
We no longer have to fly on that plane
Because this existence is no longer
We are pacing ourselves for a change
The fix will come as soon as
We allow it to; however,
The only way freedom rides
Is when you apply your heart’s endeavor
The sky is our nesting place,
The earth is our temporary home
The moon guides our inner harmony
And the sun is our zone
Keep your faith with a knowing
That all is just a temporary space
As we relax in the flow of the river of life
We prepare for a flight out of this place
Freedom flies, freedom flies
Wherever we ride, freedom flies.
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May 16th, 2010
Flow of Energy
The virtuous energy of love in motion
By Cheryl F. Batoon
Energy is unseen but ever constant
We emit energy all the time
All objects are created of energy
Everything is in synchronistic mime
The ebb and flow of life is energy
When we speak, we emit energy
Our bodies are perpetual energetic streams
Of life pulsating in synergy
To be virtuous is to be pure
To flow with energy is a virtuous state
To be in the flow of virtuous energy
is like reaching Heaven’s Gate
Love in motion within virtuous energy
Is a pristine type of love
It is a love that is based on truth
It is synchronistic vibrations from above
The Virtuous Energy of Love in Motion
Is to bring your true love and intentions
Into alignment with your heart
removing all stress and tension
When we are moving in the flow
Of the Virtuous Energy of Love in Motion
We no longer have guilt, pain, or suffering
Our life flows like the ocean
Whether happiness or heartbreak
Your soul is always energetically free
Your heart may react to the change in pace;
However your soul will just be
Love, happiness, and joy
is our life elixir and potion
as we delve deep within to release
the Virtuous Energy of Love in Motion…
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April 20th, 2010
RELATIONSHIP MATRIX
(“The Balanced ONE”)
By Cheryl F. Batoon
4th version Manuscript – April 18, 2010
This document/book is not for sale and is to be distributed freely
Copyrighted © Cheryl F. Batoon
Part II – The Relationship Matrix (The Dance of Life)
Relationship Matrix
“The Dance of Life”
In the essence of the flow of life
We come in as a part of a whole
Although we are whole within us
We are unique in our fold
We are one of many more of the One
In this dance of life
We know we are not to dance alone
We are to spin and whirl
With a partner, whether boy or girl
But at no time were we to dance alone
Never feeling alone, yet always lonely
Is not the state of the soul or our life goal;
It is to be loved and to give love
To reach up, to step up
Always moving to the rhythm of our soul
No matter how far we venture
Whether here or there
We know our true love is searching;
preparing to meet with fate on this date;
forever seeking their divine mate
For in order to dance the dance of life
One must prepare and prance
Beginning the dance with a spin and a whirl
Stretching beyond comfort; the open shell and the pearl
Forever tied into the eye of the Relationship Matrix…
Dance the dance of life
The dance of romance
The peace and contentment of the One
Gliding and flowing…feeling every nuance of the vibration
Living in the Relationship Matrix…
Chapter 1 – Relationships
The Relationship Matrix, as described in Part I, is to be in an altered state, or another dimension; however, it is your true reality, it is who you are within, it is you, your Authentic Self. We all have felt as if our lives were in a Matrix (and it is of our own choosing). We are going to discuss what this Relationship Matrix really is and how to relate to others in a balanced state.
Now remember that we discussed how our beliefs and life experiences (all life experiences) drive our perceptions? Well these same beliefs and perceptions are what we carry with us in every interaction we have with all beings on this earth whether human, animal, plant, mineral, well you get the picture. This is how we come together in either commonality or in banality. No matter what, we are bringing it and it isn’t always for the greater good of all!
Once we have reached a place of balance within, we are truly ready to begin communicating with others. Yes we have always communicated with others, but we often used multiple personalities or facades to relate with people. In most instances, we are not coming from our authentic selves. Once we have remembered who we truly are, once we begin listening to our higher spirit, we find that we are then communicating with ALL people authentically.
It is these facades, these masks that we wear when we are not balanced within that is what creates dissension and chaos in our relationships. Due to our inability to be authentic, we are unable to have balanced relationships. What we truly seek at the heart level may feel impossible to attain because we are inauthentic. Until we are balanced and have rediscovered our authentic self, we are unable to touch bases with our heart. As a matter of fact, we are furthest from our true heart’s desires while in an imbalanced state.
Once we are balanced within, our relationship dynamics change. We are now able to relate to others authentically. We speak from our truth, we recognize our truth, and we value our truth. In recognizing ourselves, in remembering who we have always been, we are now filled with the light and the ability to truly recognize our truth.
As we move through life, we are students forever learning and growing. This is very true; however, in that process of learning and growing, our ability to be balanced in all things assists us with moving in the flow of life. The flow is easier authentically then it is when one is wobbling or warbling in an inauthentic imbalanced state of existence.
In addition to our relationship with self and our higher power, what types of relationships do we have? Relationships consist of friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, group affiliations, social networking connections, to pets, and extended family and friends (I call many of these extended family members, our soul family as well).
In each of our interactions with others, we are to be our authentic selves. It doesn’t matter what type of relationship it is as long as we are being ourselves. When we stray from our authentic self, from being who we are, we are in a place where we are living an untruth because we are wearing a mask, a façade, that may serve us in the moment, but is not who we have been and who we will always be.
It is this façade that will destroy many of our relationships since a façade is based on an untruth and it is very difficult to maintain it for long. Human beings are perceptive and intuitive naturally even if they don’t pay attention to it. What this means is that when we are being inauthentic, many people will pick up on that and it creates negative vibrations which lead us down a path that is not for our greater good.
The Dance of Life in the Relationship Matrix is to live a life of balance, truth, and authenticity. To live otherwise is to remain in the darkness with an inability to truly connect with any other soul. In these instances, our connections are empty, we never feel truly satisfied, and we find ourselves searching and seeking something to gratify us, to fill that void. As we follow this life path, we find that we are having disagreements with neighbors and discordant relationships with co-workers; even social networking contacts. We find our marriages and families in chaos and disorder because we are not truly in the space and place to be able to have a balanced, authentic relationship with another.
All our relationships are directly impacted by our response to each and every interaction. All our actions impact all our interactions with other humans and with nature. When we are not at peace and are not balanced within, we find ourselves searching externally for answers. Unfortunately, searching external to us often leaves us dissatisfied with the results. We are dissatisfied because we still have the void within that has not been filled with self-love. “Without self-love, there is no balance, and without balance, authenticity is lost.”
Chapter 2 – Soulmates
In The Dance of Life, we will have many soul mates. The purpose of soul mates is to assist you along your life path, whether the good or the not so good. All experiences assist us with learning and growing; however, some life experiences teach us all the things we could do that are probably not for the greater good of us.
For me, the greater good of me is what brings me to my greatest state of happiness and joy, always with unconditional love and compassion at its core. It is important to truly know within what brings you your greatest joy, what fills your heart with love, what assists you with opening up and allowing life instead of fighting it every step of the way.
Soul mates can be family members, friends, co-workers, etc. Soul mates are all relationships that have served your life in some way or another. A soul mate could be the person you buy coffee from at Starbucks, your pet, or your spouse. Soul mates are everywhere and a part of everything that impacts our lives in both positive and negative ways. Since we are powerful human beings, we manifest all around us and yes we manifest our soul mates as well.
Soul mates are a part of our altered reality because each soul mate relationship is uniquely designed to flow in one dimension or another. We are living multi-dimensional lives now based on our authenticity and ability to be ourselves rather than to be a façade. When we are living under a façade, or a mask, while relating to our soul mates or any relationship, we find that we are not living the reality that others are living and are even unable to relate to many souls because we are still not balanced within.
Did you know that you can spot someone who is not balanced within and are not being their authentic self almost immediately? You can spot them by just observing their body language alone. Body language indicates the insecurities that exist within each soul. These insecurities are based on a lack of confidence and this lack of confidence is because the soul has not remembered and rediscovered its true authenticity. So watch a person’s body language and you will see immediately who is ruled by their ego, their intellect, or anything else that requires external feedback for validation.
When a person is clenching their hands, grinding their teeth, are flushed, easily angered, and appear to be restless (unless there is a medical reason or the person is abusing drugs), there are insecurities, deep-seated issues that have brought up a wall, a façade, a mask that allows this individual to relate with others. Think about this for a moment. Haven’t you known a few people in your life that didn’t appear authentic to you? What I mean is that you never really knew them at all. What you see is not what you get with these souls. As you observe them, you notice these folks basically changing right before you dependent upon their audience. You see their façade and you may even call them on it. Has this ever happened to you?
It has happened to me too many times to count and this is why I have seen and experienced many soul mate relationships in my lifetime that were not built on a solid foundation of balance and authenticity. These soul mate relationships are a part of your life process. The best way to describe all relationships and connections that you may have in your lifetime is to know that they all are a part of your destiny, your fate. These relationships were all fundamental in your lifetime processes and self-development.
As we experience these soul mate relationships, we are consistently in a state of learning and growing. These relationships, whether the good or the not so good, assist us with becoming whom we have always been, our Authentic Self.
Yes it is true that there are those who may never rediscover their authentic self no matter how many soul mates or any types of relationships that they may have. This is very true and it is due to our wonderful gift of self-will. We make choices and we are responsible for those choices. Either we learn and grow; experience and develop a sense of love for self, or we wither and die. There really isn’t any other option that I know of. The withering and dying aspect of this could take years; however anyone who has not rediscovered love for self is just living to die. What else is there?
Soul mate relationships assist with either building up or tearing down our self-esteem. If we allow, by our very choices, for these relationships to exist, we may find ourselves spinning around and around repeating the same behaviors over and over not realizing that until we rediscover love for self, and until we become balanced within with both our masculine and feminine energies, we will not get off that merry-go-round.
Soul mate relationships are the primary relationships in our lives that provide the most growth and development. They teach us love and they may teach us pain and sadness, but in the midst of it all, we are always learning and growing; always for the greater good of us.
Chapter 3 – Twin Flames
The Twin Flame relationship is the true “other half” of your soul. This is a relationship that has been addressed in religious writings, as well as, by different visionaries that knew that God created us to never be alone. Although we are all one with God, the Universe, we were created to be one within and without, to be a complete whole; however, in order to experience the human life, souls were split into two. Each was representative of either the masculine or feminine essence. Although complete and balanced within, each part of the complete whole of the One is the Twin Flame.
We can call the Twin Flame whatever we choose in order to describe what this means for each one of us; however, a Twin Flame (although a soul mate) is more than a soul mate because this is the other half of your soul, but most of all, because there are lessons to learn in this relationship that differ from any other soul mate relationship as well.
At this stage of your love relationships, the Twin Flame will challenge you the most. You will learn more life lessons with your Twin Flame than any other soul mate relationship. This is the point in your existence in which a Twin Flame will assist with the final evolution of your soul.
The Twin Flame relationship will bring the greatest love to you, but also the biggest challenges. Completing your balance work within is required in order to effectively partner with your Twin Flame. Your Twin Flame is the opposite of you. Your Twin Flame’s personality and characteristics may be very different than your own; however, there will be similarities that strongly link you both forever. This is what will draw you two together initially; your similarities that may include your likes, your beliefs, and your perceptions. You will notice so many similarities in your life experiences as well.
The reason I devoted an entire chapter to the Twin Flame instead of adding the Twin Flame relationship to the chapter on Soul Mate relationships is because the Twin Flame is uniquely different and requires preparation. Soul Mate relationships teach you invaluable lessons, some good and some not so good; however, these soul mate relationships are oftentimes smooth sailing in many respects.
Soul mate relationships may require less of a need for spiritual growth and healing because you both may have more in common to include the beliefs, perceptions, and life experiences that may allow you both to continue repeating cycles within your relationship. It may be so comfortable that some may not make an effort to expand their love relationships even if they feel incomplete or imbalanced because they are comfortable in this soul mate relationship.
Based on the experiences of the Soul Mate relationships, you may wonder why couldn’t your mate be your true Twin Flame? Does it really matter? If you are in a relationship that serves you and your greater good, do not question if this is your Twin Flame. Move in the flow of the relationship because not all of us will meet and mate with our Twin Flame. Some may even have a platonic relationship with their Twin Flame. The bottom line with the Twin Flame relationship is that you have a project, a task, a life changing event that you both are to work together to achieve.
In these platonic relationships, your Twin Flame is similar to your soul mate relationships; however, when the Twin Flame becomes your Life Partner, you will experience the challenges even more intensely. These challenges can range from personality conflicts to extreme feelings of high energy, anxiety, inability to face fears, and the list goes on. These challenges may prevent you both from functioning effectively in the relationship.
In order to prepare yourself for your Twin Flame, it is imperative that you achieve a balanced state as indicated in Part I of this book. In addition, your relationships with soul mates will also assist you with learning and growing as you truly prepare for your Twin Flame.
Once you and your Twin Flame have come together, you will feel the intensity of the energy within this type of relationship. It may even cause fear for some because it is so energetic and powerful. This is because you are vibrationally aligned at the highest state. This can be alarming and distracting, but once you have worked through this stage of the relationship, the energy levels will calm down. This may take some time to achieve, but if you are in a balanced state within, this will occur much more rapidly. If you are not in a balanced state, you may feel uncomfortable within these energies which can create a separation in your relationship because it can be overwhelming to one or both partners.
Once balanced within and prepared for this fantastic, absolutely phenomenal relationship, you will feel as if you are now living your “Heaven on Earth”. We have longed for our Twin for as long as we can remember and once rediscovered our search for true love is now complete.
If you notice that you are restless and feeling stagnant in your relationships, if you feel as if there is still something missing in your life, you may be seeking your Twin Flame. This is a longing that is inexorable and excruciatingly painful because we know we are “missing” something that we cannot truly describe in words. It just is what it is…
Once balanced within and fully prepared, the next step is to be ready to accept your Twin Flame into your heart. All previous wounds from past relationships must be healed; otherwise, we are a reflection of our Twin Flame and our wounds will exacerbate within this relationship. To minimize any negative experiences that may occur with your Twin Flame if you are not truly balanced within and without, prepare yourself by loving you, by being balanced within, and rediscovering your passions through your Authentic Self.
The Twin Flame will bring out the best and worst in you; however, once balanced, you will see the very best in you reflected from your Twin. The purpose for Twin Flames coming together when ready is to serve humanity in some capacity or another. Twin Flames have completed their self-healing, are balanced, have rediscovered their authentic selves, and are living their passions. Twin Flames are now ready to go the next step and that is to serve humanity.
I wrote a fictional novel, “My Four-Cornered Room” that captures the essence of the Twin Flames so well. If you would like to read a wonderfully inspirational story that is centered on the Divine Ceremony of the Twin Flames, please check out my book.
Although giving, serving, and sharing our love and compassion with everyone may be our life purpose, Twin Flames that come together for the greater good of humanity, bring additional love and light to their relationship that empowers them both to achieve these goals of service to humanity.
Twin Flames generate the brightest of lights through the direct soul connection with God, the Universe, Source Energy of All. The Power of Love in the Twin Flame relationship is of the highest level possible on this earth plane. The Triune of the Twin Flames is the masculine, the feminine, and God, Source Energy, or your Higher Power. For me, this is the complete Trinity.
If Twin Flames come together and they still have self-healing work to complete, it can be a challenge. There may be a period of the “Darkness of the Soul” that occurs during this deep intensive period of self-healing. During this period, each Twin will be there to assist the other either physically or telepathically. Once the Twins have attained balance within and achieved self-love and mastery of their authentic selves, they are better able to assist their Twin during these “Darkness of the Soul” periods.
Once all of the life experiences (and previous life experiences if you believe in reincarnation) have been healed and balance attained within, the Twin Flames are ready to forge their path of enlightenment to the highest levels possible in the multi-dimensional life here on Earth.
The Twin Flames’ manifestation abilities are even more powerful as well. We are each bright beacons of light; however, the Twin Flames together as partners double that light and energy and with their very thoughts, dreams, and desires, they are able to manifest so much more and so much faster than ever before.
In my personal experience, I have met my Twin Flame. How did I know he was my Twin Flame? I just knew. I certainly questioned it along the way because I wasn’t balanced within and had so many past issues to work through and heal; however, I know in my soul that he is my Twin Flame.
I too had several soul mate relationships in my lifetime that assisted with my growth and development in preparation for my Twin Flame. Although I had experienced other soul mate relationships and was even married for 18 years to one of these soul mates, there is nothing that compares to the Twin Flame relationship. It is an intense love. You can feel each other telepathically and you are always thinking of one another. This bond is eternal.
Meeting my Twin Flame was the most fascinating experience I had ever had in my life. From the very first moment we met, we knew this was different. We disappeared from the world for several days and didn’t have a care in the world. We were truly invisible. They say that Twin Flames literally disappear to the rest of the world because our energies are aligned and vibrating at a higher level; so high as to be perfection.
Now if you are thinking we rode off into the sunset together, you would be mistaken. We saw each other a few times after that initial meeting, but it just faded away. The intensity of it was all consuming and left me feeling that I may be mistaken in believing that this is the life partner relationship that I knew in my soul was awaiting me in this lifetime. I began to question how the relationship flowed and whether it was flowing the way I expected relationships to flow. In other words, I had expectations. I was focused on me and what I wanted and not on what my Twin Flame wanted or needed. I walked away from my Twin Flame because I was focused on expectations and conditions to love, not unconditional love and compassion. I expected things to flow my way or no way.
Do you see the similarities between what I have addressed here and our ego/mind? That is exactly what ruled me during this two year period of knowing that this man is my Twin Flame. I experienced feelings as if this was unrequited love. I mourned the loss as if it was just one-sided and only I had feelings for him even though he told me numerous times as to who he was (my Twin Love) and how he felt about me. I wasn’t ready for my Twin Flame and I spent those two years in deep soul reflection. There wasn’t a day that passed by that he wasn’t on my mind. I believe that when you are always thinking of someone, they are also thinking of you. Our thoughts are powerful, we are powerful creator beings, and our thoughts do manifest.
A little over two years later, almost to the day we met, our energies, our synchronistic energies brought us back together. We know who the other is and we love one another unconditionally and eternally. This is for real and if this hasn’t happened to you, don’t be surprised if it does and very soon. I have heard it said that many Twin Flames are connecting or reconnecting at this time. Maybe it is in preparation for 2012 or because this may be the last lifetime for many souls, who knows what it may be. The bottom line for me is to work on balancing ourselves within before even thinking of connecting with our Twin Flame. If you meet your Twin before you or both of you are ready, it may be a difficult challenge. This is why moving in the flow is so important.
I’m still in the process of finally coming together as life partners with my Twin Flame; however, we know who each other is and we are completing our final healing processes before we come together to share our lives and to ultimately ascend together.
It takes being balanced within, it takes healing from previous wounds whether perpetuated from our parents or other family members and friends, in order for this healing to complete and to have a healthy relationship. All relationships are enhanced by our ability to heal within, to love ourselves, to forgive ourselves and others of all things, to be our authentic selves, as we rediscover our passions for living and our life purpose.
Is it the true nature of humans to stay together for life? That is a difficult one to answer because the true nature of humans is their souls, their authentic selves. As a Soul, a Spirit, living in the human condition, we are here to experience life. Whether this is with one partner or many, or none; that is the choice of the soul and based on the soul’s planned experiences in order to learn and grow as a human. So having said this, it depends on each soul. I believe that we have the other half of us that exists in the universes.
When we meet the other half of our soul, we will be together eternally and in this life as well. If it doesn’t occur in this lifetime, we may have soul mates that will fulfill that role for us. If one has already met their Twin Flame, moving on in any other soul mate relationships will be challenging and may even be impossible. It is for me. Although I don’t believe that anything is impossible, this is one area that I would have to state that getting over or forgetting your Twin Flame is impossible.
I have realized that until I had healed from the past and was truly balanced within, I wasn’t ready for any relationship. I have realized that one of the biggest issues I had to overcome is the belief that how I feel is all that matters. When we allow our ego/mind to place us in a position of believing that what we feel is all that matters, we are not balanced within.
When we are not looking at every situation from other’s perspectives rather than just our own, we are not balanced within. When we expect someone external to us to fulfill the void we have in our heart because we are not balanced, we do not love ourselves, and we have not rediscovered our authentic self, then we are not balanced nor are we ready for a relationship.
Remember to prepare yourself for your Twin Flame or your Soul Mate relationship by being you, by healing, by accepting, and by allowing your heart to be free to be loved, to give love, and to share love. I am balanced and I am my authentic self. With this, I know that my Twin Flame and I will forge our path together as we move in the flow of life sharing our love and light with all of humanity.
Chapter 4 – Soul Family
Now that we have addressed the various relationships in our lives from our significant other (our Soul Mate or Twin Flame), our parents, our siblings, our children, our co-workers, and all other family and friends, we are ready to receive new friends that are a part of our Soul Family. Now we can be imbalanced, we can feel imperfect, and still have relationships with our Soul Family; however, to be effective in these friendships, to be able to be balanced in relationships requires balance within.
Our Soul Family enters our life at various times and this can be for a specific reason or purpose or for a lifetime. Soul Family members are here to assist us with our life purpose and to assist with any residual healing that may be necessary to complete the balance within.
Our Soul Family consists of soul members that have been a member of our Soul Family since we were first created millions of years ago. If you have studied the Soul Tree, you will understand that there are about 144 Soul groups that are a part of your Soul Family. Their lives will intertwine with yours per an agreement that you both had made long before you came into this Earth plane. Your Soul Family members are building up now more than ever because we are reaching a point in this place and space where the collective consciousness is very important to our expedited growth and development at this time in the world with 2012 rapidly approaching. This is all the more reason to be balanced within in preparation for these miraculous events occurring now with more to come in these next few years and beyond. Soul Family members assist us with creating all that we came here to do and to be.
How can we be balanced in our relationships? Begin with being balanced within (reference Part I of this book regarding how to be balanced within).
Once we have achieved this, once we are balanced with our intellect and emotions, we will find that relationships with others become much easier to develop, sustain, and maintain. With unconditional love for self, with self-healing, with a release of the ego-driven domination and control of self and others, release of past wounds and hurts, and with the rediscovery of who we are, who we have always been, we will find that Soul Family relationships are of the greatest form of support and love at this stage than any other relationship with the exception of our Twin Flame.
Soul Mates are a part of the Soul Family relationships. Soul Mates have been in and out of your many lives since the beginning of time. They will be with you in various capacities throughout your life and your many lifetimes (if you believe in reincarnation).
To be balanced in relationships is to understand the universal law of balance which is to give and share, to dance the dance of life! To effectively dance the dance of life, we are to be balanced within and without. We are to give and receive in order to be balanced. If we are giving more than we are receiving, we will find ourselves becoming angry, annoyed, irritated, and this may be due to our suppressed emotions in order to keep the peace. This is not conducive to being our authentic selves. What happens is that these emotions will need to be expressed in one way or another. When we suppress our feelings, when we are not our authentic selves, we and our relationships pay.
The Soul Family is all around you, at home, at school, in your romantic relationships, and in the workplace. They are everywhere and they are here for you. Some lessons may be more difficult than others, but these are lessons we agreed to when we decided to come into this world; therefore, accept and allow all these lessons as you move forward, onward and upwards on your life path.
Chapter 5 – The Balance of One
We have covered the processes for bringing your masculine and feminine energies into one in order to be balanced within. We have discussed the many myriad of relationships in our lives from friends to our Soul Family, from our Soul Mates to our Twin Flame, and we have discussed the importance of being balanced within in order to have effective relationships with others.
Now that we are balanced within, the question is how do we create a balance of One with others particularly those who may not be balanced within themselves?
When we have done the work and have followed our path to heal from the past wounds, to forgive ourselves first and foremost, and are now balanced between our masculine and feminine energies, between our logic and emotions, it is now time to work on healing our relationships. When in a relationship regardless of the type, working through healing that relationship is fundamental to being “a balance of ONE”.
When we are told that “action speaks louder than words”, please note that I disagree with this. Do you know that in order to be a “balanced one”, your actions will speak who you are; however, until one is balanced, their actions are truly indicative of their beliefs, perceptions, and previous reactions to similar circumstances.
People do not always show how they truly feel by their actions. Here is an example: I was told that if a man doesn’t call you, he isn’t interested. If he calls you and pursues you, he is interested. Well, have you ever been pursued ardently, wined and dined, just to have him disappear after a few weeks to a month or two later? You ask yourself “what happened?”, but you never ever hear from him again. Now if his actions spoke louder than words and he was physically wining and dining you, then what were his actions really saying? His actions could have been saying almost anything from “I am already in a relationship” to “I am no longer interested” to “I’m afraid that I may be feeling something and I am not ready for that!” It can be almost anything that could trigger this and my book isn’t big enough to allow for the countless discussions we can have on this topic.
For me, the bottom line is that one’s actions do not truly indicate one’s heart or one’s heart’s desires. Many a man or woman regardless of gender are love-struck and then suddenly “love-fire” which means one feels they may get burned and they are ready to leap before there is a chance of anyone telling them to leap. It is a reaction to a known action that never manifested except in the mind of the person who is running from the intimacy of a relationship.
To be “The Balanced One”, one has to release these past beliefs, rediscover the truth through wisdom attained in life experiences, and with true soul searching. It may take several “darkness of the soul” journeys for one to be able to release the past pain and wounds; however, just like mourning the loss of a loved one, just like living our lives free of hardship and focused on love and joy, there is no time, it is quite simply timeless…
Chapter 6, Romantic Relationships “The Submission”
In romantic relationships, being balanced within is extremely critical. When we are not balanced within and we attempt to share our lives with someone else, we are setting ourselves up for more challenges than ever! The reason for this is because we are two parts coming together and yet each part has not been completely defined and recognized. Until each part is defined and recognized, each part will not effectively fit the other half. I may be referring to Twin Flame relationships in this instance, but to me, even if one is in a soul mate relationship, if one believes this is their one and they are both balanced within, this relationship is effectively serving their greater good. That is my observation of these types of relationships. I believe in the Twin Flame relationship as it flows with destiny and the overall universal plan. Twin Flames that recognize one another understand what I am stating here.
The key with romantic relationships is that due to the intimacy and deep heart connection, these relationships require submission to truly be successful.
In my life experiences, the only time I ever heard the term “submission” was as it relates to a wife submitting to her husband. This has been a term that has created countless discussions and albeit some disagreements as to whether it is by divine design that one submits to their mate.
I believe that both men and women who are in a true love state of being, a feeling that they are “in love” with another, will ultimately submit to that person. This is their way of giving their heart, their soul to another to hold, to care for, and to love. Not as a condition, but because this is what they desire in their soul and this is the way that it is. Why? Because they can both feel it and they both have submitted to it.
For me, all successful true love relationships that exist on this planet are by the very submission of each partner. Any romantic relationships that do not include submission by both partners are experiencing issues today because one or both partners are unhappy and are paying a price for that unhappiness.
In my truth, submission is when two souls have submitted to one another. This is not based on gender. This is about two souls who are vibrationally aligned with one another, energetically drawn to each other, and are in a love state for one another. In this love state, each has submitted to the other. Each has opened their hearts and embraced the reflection of love that they see in the eyes of their mate, feel in their hearts, recognize in their souls, and it all resonates as the one, the complete other half of their soul, or a soul mate that is energetically drawn to us and we meet each other in the middle on the relationship superhighway.
Yes ladies, men submit when they fall in love. A man that isn’t in love will never submit. It isn’t because he doesn’t love the person he may be interacting with; however, he is not in a state of love. He is not feeling the energy of this other soul in the same way and he knows that it will never be. A man that is in a state of love will submit. Now if he isn’t sure, if he is healing from the past, if he is imbalanced, if he is not in touch with his authentic self, than he may never truly submit.
Women submit when they are emotionally and physically engaged. Some women must be intellectually engaged as well; however, spirituality isn’t always a goal of women because oftentimes women haven’t been in touch with their true spirituality.
Yes women may study religion, spirituality, etc.; however, a woman isn’t often in touch with her true spirituality due to her belief systems, perceptions, and life experiences. Women that were raised in a gender-based structure are so concerned about serving their role as they were taught that they are not in touch with their spirituality. Even those who are deeply religious are not truly in touch with their spirituality until they are balanced within and are their authentic selves.
Women believe they are submitting when they believe they have found the mate for them. Women believe they are submitting when they are in a relationship even if they are not in love. A woman submits based on belief systems, perceptions, and experiences, not necessarily because of true love.
Men submit when they are in love. They may not understand what it means to be in love because they may not have been taught how to love, may not have had a male role model to teach them how to truly give and share love despite the gender-based beliefs, and/or were raised in abusive homes where love becomes an ongoing desire that is never fulfilled or something that one fears and never attains in this lifetime. When a man doesn’t understand what love is, it is difficult for him to submit in love because he doesn’t know how.
When a man is balanced within and is his authentic self, he will submit to his mate. This is a sign that a man has truly committed to his mate.
How can one tell once a man has submitted? When a man submits, everyone around him sees the change in him even more so than his mate. When a man submits, his male friends can sense it first. Men have never shared this with women because in some instances, women use a man’s submission against him. Women consider it a sign of weakness due to gender-based beliefs. Women do not realize that a man that submits to them is to be honored, respected, loved, and appreciated. A man that submits to you loves you. A man that submits to you adores you and has chosen to submit to you.
Once men and women are able to get pass their past, heal the wounds, release the fear, forgive self and others, and truly be able to open up their hearts to love, these souls will find themselves balanced within, living an authentic life, and able to meet like-minded, like-hearted souls, exchange energy, and find themselves submitting to their lifetime (or eternal) mates.
One other key note and tip for all of us (I am always in the process of learning and growing) is to get in touch with our child essence. If we were to look at one another and see each other’s inner child, see each other in our child-like essence state of being, we would realize how this very thought softens our approach. We find ourselves becoming gentler, kinder, compassionate, and more willing to compromise to work together for the common good. Practice seeing everyone at their child-like state and you will find it easier to draw on unconditional love and compassion.
Chapter 7, Living a Life of Peace, Happiness, and Joy
To live a life of peace, happiness, and joy, one only needs to remember one thing. You are a part of the whole, you are complete, and you are perfect no matter what this world wants to bring to you. No matter what decisions or choices you have to make, always know you are not alone. You have the powerful energy of Spirit with you at all times.
Do not allow yourself to go into that rabbit hole, that dark space of negativity that only seems to take you back down memory lane, and I don’t mean the kind that Minnie Riperton sings about either (for those of you who love old school R&B music as I do). When we focus on why we are here, when we remember, when we rediscover our passions, we will find that living a life of peace, happiness, and joy becomes so much easier and smoother.
Whenever you take a step in a direction where you find that every step is smooth and easy, know that you are walking your path. Yes there is a saying that “if it is too good to be true, it is”, but I say that if your intuition tells you it feels good, if your heart embraces it, then you are following your life path.
The journey on the path of life may be a bit rocky from time to time as you make adjustments with both your inner changes because you are now “a balance of one”, but also the changes you are seeing in your external world which mirrors what you are experiencing on the inside. You are truly headed on your path, you are truly feeling the power of love, and you are carrying your happiness and joy like a shield that surrounds you with the ever-loving light of Spirit, of God, of Source, or whatever you choose to call your Higher Power.
When the going gets tough, it is true that the tough may get going, but for me, when the going gets tough, step back, reassess, and move in the flow. Don’t force anything and don’t make decisions under duress. That may be easier said than done, but even in moments of crisis, do what you can to take a moment to breathe, center yourself, and reassess the situation before making a decision. This is a practice I must do regularly in order to remind myself of this all the time. This is an ongoing process. Don’t be so hard on yourself if you aren’t able to do this the first few times, but with practice, you will be successful.
Know your purpose, love your purpose, live your purpose and that purpose is YOU…
The “Balance of One” is a “State of Being”. In order to achieve this state, all one must do is believe that balance is attainable and believe that with practice, you will achieve mastery within because you have always known who you have always been, your Authentic Self in the Relationship Matrix, “The Balanced One”…
Epilogue
This was an interesting experience for me to write a non-fiction on relationships since I am still learning and growing in my relationships as well; however, we are all in various states of growth and development. I do believe this is an ongoing process; maybe not necessarily a lifetime process, but definitely an ongoing process. Every relationship teaches us something new to assist us on our way.
For those of you that enjoy video games, life is like a video game at times. We have various levels of which we have to successfully complete in order to finish the game. There are certain steps we are to take to open up each level. In the midst of moving from one level to the next, we encounter numerous challenges, obstacles, triumphs, and successes. This is just like life.
To be balanced is to complete a level to allow one to keep moving forward onward and upward. Life is not a battle-weary existence as it oftentimes feels. We make it battle-weary. When we look back at most instances of our lives, we find that we could have altered the ending a bit here or there if we would have made other choices or decisions. We are responsible for our existence and we are responsible for completing each level of life to move upwards. It is our choice. It is always a choice.
To be balanced can be a challenge because we have all these layers of “stuff” from our childhoods, past lives, and other experiences. We carry this load around with us until we are willing to surrender and release it for good. As we carry it around, we carry around the burdens that come with it and in most instances, it takes its toll on us.
We hurt ourselves when we don’t release past stuff, when we can’t forgive others and/or ourselves, and when we do not allow ourselves to move on. Please stop holding onto what you have no control over. Remember to release and surrender, release and surrender. Say that to yourself a few times a day when you feel the burden is becoming too heavy for you. Be like the Lotus and learn to release when it is time to release to ensure that you are never out of balance…
Releasing all that old unnecessary stuff may be a bit scary at first because some of us are fearful of change, we don’t want to let go of our comfort zone. Please remember that in order to experience those next levels, it may be a bit uncomfortable at times. Roll with it and know that what is to come is going to be better than anything you have ever known before. It just gets better and better as you move through life if you are able to release the past, forgive yourself and others, and move out of the comfort zone into the love zone…the love zone is the space and place where you are truly balanced and you feel the unconditional love for you. That is where it all begins and ends…
Remember that God, the Universe, your Higher Power wants you to succeed and wants what will be for the greater good of you as well while achieving your greatest state of happiness and love.
We are loved so much that the desire is for all of us to be able to achieve what we came here to achieve and to have the assistance and love available to us to make it all happen. We are powerful creator beings, we are loved and we are love. With that, embrace your uniqueness, your authenticity with a knowing that you are perfect, you are truly perfect. You always were and you always will be. Don’t let the human side confuse you…
I am honored to have written this book through Spirit to assist me on my life path. I do hope you were able to obtain information from this book that can assist you along your life path. Life is not as difficult as we make it out to be and it is the simplest things in life that make us the happiest. Learn to know what those are and to embrace them. Appreciate all things around you no matter how large or small. Be in a state of gratitude and appreciation as often as you can with a knowing that all you ever need will always be provided to you…
Be balanced, be complete within you, and engage with the Twin Flame that resides within you. With the abundance of unconditional love and compassion that you have learned to have for self, you will be ready to share with the world. With peace and blessings always…
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April 20th, 2010
RELATIONSHIP MATRIX
(“The Balanced ONE”)
By Cheryl F. Batoon
4th version Manuscript – April 18, 2010
This document/book is not for sale and is to be distributed freely
Copyrighted © Cheryl F. Batoon
Preface
What is the Relationship Matrix? I wasn’t sure initially until I searched online and found various interpretations of what it meant. There are books, blogs, and articles on the Relationship Matrix. There was one in particular that addressed being balanced in relationships and that our beliefs and interests have a bearing on our ability to be balanced. This was similar to where I would like to take this topic as well; therefore, Relationship Matrix was an appropriate title.
I found this description of Matrix to be very interesting to me and a great segue to what this book is all about. This was provided by Wikipedia: ∀bj∀ai: Φ(ai, bj) Alfred Tarski in his 1946 Introduction to Logic used the word “matrix” synonymously with the notion of truth table as used in mathematical logic
The Truth Table in mathematical logic is what we understand it to be, what we were taught, what it should be logically, and we do not question.
I am asking for you all to question the Truth Table as it applies to Relationships and the Relationship Matrix. I am asking you to open up and be flexible about what you have been taught, what your beliefs are regarding your gender-based teachings, and your understanding of what this means for you.
What we have logically believed to be true in relationships from “men are this” to “women are that” has created a division so great between men and women that it isn’t surprising we have been under the veil so long and unable to truly see beyond our own belief systems, perceptions, and life (or lifetime) experiences.
This description of Matrix resonated for me the most: “Matrix (or region of influence) that connects two or more points in space or time, usually by means of a force or energy. In other words, a field is held together by something capable of manifesting a noticeable change.”
This is an excellent depiction of “Matrix” and what we will be discussing in this book. “Matrix connects two or more points in space or time, usually by means of a force or energy.” It is our energy that draws us together (or keeps us apart) because we are all connected energetically. When we are balanced within, we are truly capable of “manifesting a noticeable change”.
The Relationship Matrix is not some unknown, unseen…it isn’t some alternate reality. It is quite simply the Matrix that exists within you as you create your world around you. It is of your own making and the key is balance.
We do not need to delve deeply into mathematics or linear algebra to come up with an equation that truly means “balance”. Numerically, the number two is equated with balance and is written as “11” which is also a spiritual master number. We won’t delve into the numerology aspect of this; however, the world, the Universe is balanced, we just see it as imbalanced; therefore, we have created it as imbalanced. When we awaken from our slumber, we will see (and there are many that have already awakened) that the world is balanced, it is we, as individuals that are to be balanced within first before we can truly see and feel connected to one another, to the world, to the Universe, to God, our Higher Power to achieve the state of “The Balanced One”.
This book is about being balanced within, about remembering what that means, and once done, applying it to our external world, to our relationships with others.
This is my interpretation of what it means to be balanced within and without. This book was written through Spirit, my Higher Self and is also based on my lifetime experiences. I have determined that to be balanced allows one to successfully reawaken the ability to love self and others; to truly establish relationships that will assist you throughout your lifetime and for eternity. We are spirits having a human experience as many of you are already aware and with that, this book is a tool that may assist you with rediscovering your authentic self in order for you to truly be “The Balanced One”.
My dream is for all of us to be balanced within because we came into this world balanced; now it is time to rediscover what that means.
One of my favorite authors during my initial rebirth of my spirituality was Sylvia Browne. She has written some amazing books that truly resonated in my soul. I always loved it when she would say this to people who are reading her books or attending her seminars, “take what you will and leave the rest”. This is what I am passing onto all of you reading these words. Take what resonates for you and leave the rest.
May this book assist you on your life path and contribute to your well-being as you move in the flow of life…
Part I – Relationship Matrix – To be “The Balanced One”
“As you think, so shall you become…I am learning to understand rather than immediately judge or to be judged. I cannot blindly follow the crowd and accept their approach. I will not allow myself to indulge in the usual manipulating game of role creation. Fortunately for me, my self-knowledge has transcended that and I have come to understand that life is best to be lived and not to be conceptualized. I am happy because I am growing daily and honestly not knowing where the limit lies. To be certain, every day there can be a revelation or a new discovery. I treasure the memory of the past misfortunes. It has added more to my bank of fortitude.” BRUCE LEE
Chapter 1 – Beliefs and Perceptions
The Relationship Matrix is our perception of our reality. This is our state of being within, as well as, without. Our beliefs are our foundation. This is where we lay the groundwork for our very existence. We focus on the externals to create our world rather than what resides within. Our beliefs, what we have been taught, and our perceptions are not necessarily based on the Truth. Just because we were taught something, doesn’t make it true. All it takes is a thought that creates a belief that manifests around us. What we believe manifests.
My focus is on our beliefs that were based on gender differences. We were taught what it is to be a man or a woman. We were shown by example and were given options specific to our gender. We were a boy or girl, a man or woman first before we were anything else. We forget that we are a soul first and that we are a human second which means our gender has no bearing at the soul level.
We have experienced many lifetimes of Relationship Matrices based on these very beliefs and perceptions. We have had many relationships in our lifetimes and each time, our soul’s point of this journey was to learn, grow, and experience. Once we emerge from our own self-induced Matrix, we are finally free from the past hurts and pain and are able to see with clarity unlike anything we have known before.
What this means is that prior to this very moment, prior to you beginning to remember to love you, to know you, and to truly embrace your authentic self, you were and have always been in a Relationship Matrix of your own creation. This is the relationship with self and the relationship with others. Your Relationship Matrix is defined by you. What do you feel? What do you want to see? Who are you really? When you are balanced, the answers will just flow from you. You are at a point in your life experiences where you finally feel that you are creating your reality on your own…no one else controls your universe, but you…you are a powerful manifesting being…having a human experience.
During all your many life experiences and more specifically, your current life experience, you have had to release or purge the old beliefs that are no longer serving you. Once you learn from an experience, you will remain stagnant if you continue to repeat that experience over and over again even though you have already learned from this experience and have nothing further to gain from repeating it. Release and purge those old beliefs that do not serve you and are not for your greater good.
Your life experiences, your childhood, your adulthood, all contributed to who you are today. These are the experiences that gave birth to your beliefs. It is these experiences that honed your perceptiveness, how you see your world…you were told how to see your world, you were taught how to see your world, and you are looking at the world you perceive based on your beliefs.
These beliefs are external to you and part of the reason you are held back from living a life of true freedom. It is our beliefs that hold us back due to the many limitations that accompany self-doubt, self-criticism, etc. Oftentimes, our beliefs shadow our existence with these very limitations.
How do our beliefs affect us as individuals? Our beliefs affect us directly because we believe in what we were taught whether it is the truth or not. We trust and respect our family, our teachers, our pastors, our priests, our friends, and other significant souls in our lives. Our beliefs are formed by these interactions, whether the good or the not so good.
Many of these beliefs limited you because they are structured and designed for you to fail, not to succeed. Our beliefs limit us to the point that we fail to succeed because we do not believe that we will succeed due to these deeply ingrained belief systems.
It is our beliefs that limit us in our ability to truly meditate and pray. Meditation and prayer are powerful; however, because we are subjugated to our beliefs, we cannot free our hearts enough to allow the mind to follow spirit in the form of prayer and meditation. Prayers based on the limitations of lack and need create the same; however, when we effectively pray and meditate in a balanced state of gratitude, we can see our desires manifest quickly.
Our perceptions of the world are limited due to these beliefs. We were taught that this “is just the way it is”, “and so it is”, “so shall it be”, and there you have it, your reality based on your “Relationship Matrix”.
It is due to our beliefs and perceptions that we experience pain, anger, judgment, fear, and lack of love. It is time to open up to your true authentic self and release the need to identify one’s self strictly by your beliefs and perceptions.
Chapter 2 – Masculine and Feminine Energies
You are probably already familiar with what masculine and feminine energies are; however, if you are not, we will clarify it further here. Within each soul is both the masculine and feminine aspects. We have traits and characteristics specific to these aspects. We have been taught that masculine traits are more logical and feminine traits are more emotional. We are a balance of both energies and we are comprised of the traits, attributes, and characteristics specific to both aspects.
We are all comprised of energy, both within and without. This is the energy of life; the energy of existence. We each have both the logic and emotion within us. Based on our beliefs (addressed in Chapter 1), we were taught to strengthen either logic or emotion, but seldom both. This is where the unfortunate part of our life experience began. This is when we favor either our masculine or feminine aspects at the expense of the other. In the process of doing this, we do ourselves a disservice.
If we were taught to favor our masculine, we are taught to be logical in our ways of thinking and formulating our lives. We become these masculine energies by choosing to be macho or tough. If one favors their masculinity, they may exhibit more dominant behaviors because they were taught to be the protector and provider. We are taught never to show emotion. We are taught not to cry especially if in the presence of other men or people in general.
A boy may be taught to be in control of his emotions at all times. He may be taught that he is the “King of his world” and no one can change that. In other words, he is inflexible and focused primarily on his ego/mind in order to define who he is. His beliefs have taught him to be ruled by logic with little emotion.
If we were taught to favor our feminine, we are taught to be emotional in our ways of thinking and formulating our lives. We become these feminine energies in the sense that some women are more docile, submissive, giving, subservient, and in other words, the giver of all things such as nurturing, loving, all strongly based on emotion. A girl is taught that she is to learn to cook, to clean, to serve, and to accept. Her beliefs have taught her to be ruled by emotion with very little logic.
When we are able to look beyond our gender differences (anatomically and hormonally for procreative purposes) and truly see ourselves as what we are, a balance of both the masculine and feminine energies and traits that reside within us, we are able to heal from our beliefs. We finally remember who we are and who we have always been. With this, we will find that we are able to balance the masculine and feminine energies within us.
By releasing our attachment to our beliefs and by opening up to all of our senses, including our 6th sense which is our intuition and gut instinct, we are finally open to remembering who we are. When we remember who we are, we realize that we are perfect beings. With this wisdom, we have no need to harbor guilt, we are no longer struggling with forgiveness for self and for others, we release the need to be judgmental, and we no longer fear, worry, or have anxiety about our lives.
When we are finally able to forgive ourselves and forgive others, release the need to judge, to fear, to possess and own, and to finally release all need for things external to ourselves in order to be balanced within, we will find a newfound sense of freedom unlike any we have ever known before in the human experience. We feel it so strongly within us because we have finally rediscovered who we really are, our Authentic Selves.
Once we are balanced within with both our masculine and feminine energies, we will find that we are more open to others. We find that our hearts are open. We find that we have no fear of expressing our emotions and our intellect.
We may find ourselves unable to tolerate some or all of the beliefs of another because it doesn’t resonate with us; however, we find that it isn’t the beliefs of another that is intolerable. It is the inability in that moment for our energies to effectively intertwine with another’s energy. With this inability, we find that there is no “dance of life”, there is no energy to pursue a relationship with another, and there is no desire or want to be in that space or place any longer.
As we grow and learn, our energies also grow and with that our energies change with our growth. Meeting others of like-minds and like-hearts is a natural flow of the Universe to assist us each step of the way as we progress through our life path of attaining true wisdom within. With this, we gain a newfound respect for ourselves and others as we rediscover our Authentic Selves.
As we grow in wisdom and remember to respect and honor both self and others, we will rediscover what it means to be “The Balanced One”. Once we have balanced the energies within of both logic (masculine) and emotion (feminine), we will find that we relate better with others and we are able to truly meditate and pray because we now have achieved mastery of self as “The Balanced One’.
To achieve a state of oneness and to truly rediscover who you have always been, start by spending time (at least 10-15 minutes a day) meditating or praying and really listening to your higher consciousness, to God, to the Universe, speaking through and to you. You all may be doing this already and may even be spending more than 10-15 minutes in prayer and meditation. Whatever works for you is the key. We are all in it together and with this state of oneness within, you are allowing yourself to communicate with spirit, with God, with the Universe, with your Higher Power, in a way that is difficult if interrupted with the noise and chaos that exists in the external world.
Once you have achieved the state of “The Balanced One”, you have achieved freedom and peace within. With this newfound freedom, you will become more in touch with both your logical and emotional or masculine and feminine energies within. These energies within create a place and space that is your matrix, it is your reality, it is who you really are. For the first time, you are finally realizing (and rediscovering after all your many lifetimes) who you really are. You have rediscovered your Authentic Self.
Chapter 3 – Gender and Gender-less based roles
During our growth and development, our beliefs permeated our lives creating a gender-based society which created our perceptions of our environment and how we relate to self and others. Based on this, we have raised our own children and continue to raise our grandchildren under the misguided focus of a gender-based existence. When we were taught to live our lives based on gender, we took the entire range of our existence and placed it within a tiny part of who we are. Our gender determines our ability for procreation period. After this point, all inter-relatedness is similar; all communication is similar, absent our beliefs and perceptions based on what we were taught.
Release and surrender your beliefs based on gender and how you are “supposed to be” and open yourself up to being balanced within in both logic (masculine) and emotion (feminine). You are more than what your gender dictates.
If our roles in this life were focused less on gender, we would achieve a state of balance effortlessly. We would see less war and less reason for violence or other extreme ego-related beliefs that have dominated our world and our very existence.
Due to our gender-based existence, we have lived our lives with the inability to truly love. We have been confused about love and oftentimes cannot even clarify what love means to us. We chase it, we run from it, we are fearful of it, we are angry at it, and we continue to find fault with love considering it as a weapon of mass destruction. This is due to our inability to truly live as our Authentic Selves.
We are truly powerful, spiritual beings. We strive to be balanced within, both emotion and intellect…feminine and masculine. When balanced, we find that we are more child-like; we easily express joy and happiness. We are open and able to see the reflection of our soul in others. We gather these beautiful vibrations to assist us on our life journey; the soul journey of passion and rhythm with the Universe.
As stated previously, our gender-based roles are really for procreation purposes only. Outside of that, there are no gender-based roles other than those created by our beliefs and perceptions. Even our life experiences remind us that throughout our lives, our experiences were parallel to many others regardless of gender. We are all traveling our journey together and the more that we realize how very gender-less our souls are, we realize that we are truly ONE within and without.
How do we live an existence that is gender-less? We are not talking about living an existence that is gender-less, but to look at this differently then you have previously. The Relationship Matrix begins within first. It begins with understanding who we are and being in touch with both our masculine and feminine energies. It is to be balanced within, to understand that we are more alike than we are different. There is nothing external to us that will provide the answers to our questions about who we are, why we are here, and the Universal purpose for living. All answers reside within. Everything resides within first and foremost.
The next step is to bring those energies together. To begin this process, release the beliefs that you have been taught and begin anew. Begin to relate to yourself at the soul level. Understand that you are both masculine and feminine energies, living in a human body that is anatomically different from one another, but at the soul level, we are very much alike. Once we have realized this very basic, fundamental existence that we are living, we can begin anew with a clean slate. We will begin to understand that we are more than the gender that was assigned to us upon birth with a knowing that we are truly gender-less souls.
How do we bring it all together? In Chapter 4, we will talk more about the masculine and feminine energies and how we differ.
Chapter 4 – How Masculine and Feminine energies differ
How does the Masculine (Logic/Male) differ from the Feminine (Emotion/Female)? They differ because physically they are anatomically created differently. At the embryo state, all children are female first. We are all familiar with how children are created thru gestation. Once a child’s gender is determined to be male, the physical differences between both embryos become more apparent. There are hormonal changes that occur to create the various attributes of both the masculine and feminine aspects of our physicality. These hormonal changes do not; however, determine our masculine and feminine traits.
At the soul level, we are both masculine and feminine. The primary reason there are differences in our behaviors as both men and women is because we are basing our behavior, our mannerisms, our responses to life, etc. on our beliefs, our perceptions of ourselves, our world, and our life experiences.
It doesn’t matter if one is heterosexual or homosexual. Their masculine or feminine traits are based on beliefs, perceptions, and experiences, not on what gender they may be anatomically. One is “no gender” within. One’s soul chose to experience a specific gender anatomically, but it is one’s soul that determines who one loves, it is one’s soul that determines how one will proceed in life as a balanced human being, and it is one’s soul (once balanced) that determines what one is here to experience, to learn, and to be.
Although this book may focus more on the relationships between men and women, please understand that it is the masculine and feminine essence that is really being discussed here.
When we remove the physical differences between men and women, once we remove the purpose for procreation, we find that we are all very much alike. We both have the same responses to our external world. We both feel and express pain, sadness, and negative vibrations, as well as, the positive vibrations.
We both celebrate joy and happiness, we both love and laugh, we are playful, we are serious, we are focused, we are determined, we are expressive (however, there are differences in expressions between men and women based on beliefs, perceptions, and experiences.), we are filled with our life passion, and we both have our differing strengths which is a major part of the balance process because this is the true “dance of life” in relationships.
When we are able to master our strengths and utilize them effectively within our relationships while allowing our partner to also utilize their strengths within the relationship, we have truly achieved “The Balanced One” both within and without.
There are always exceptions when it comes to the existence of humans because of the multitude of possibilities and experiences that led to one’s beliefs and perceptions.
This is why being a human is such a wonderful empowering state of being. It is because we were given ample opportunity to experience either directly or indirectly, which is always our choice. As we learn and grow through our experiences, we become more of what we have experienced regardless of our beliefs. Our perceptions are flexible based on those life experiences.
There are men and women that are more domesticated than other men and women. For example in some households, one mate may be neater than the other. There are men that are better at cooking and cleaning than their spouse. One mate will have certain traits that are stronger than the other. There is no set way to be in the flow of life. The key is that you know your strengths and you utilize them properly within you and in all your relationships. My point is that men and women are more alike than they are different…are you still with me?
Men and women both experience emotional pains and even if men have been taught not to cry, they do and they will. I have seen all my brothers cry many times when we were growing up and even more intently when they were grown. Many men have an under-utilized emotional base because they close it off; however, it never feels quite right to them.
Men question their emotions all the time because they were taught not to express them. They were taught that boys do not cry, that boys are to “man up”. How can a boy understand what it feels to express his true emotions if he is required to “man up”? This is what I mean by beliefs that are instilled in us that reshape who we are.
What an injustice we do to our children when we do not allow them to be their Authentic Self. This is so critical to the spiritual development of each one of us. When we live in an emotion-less world, we neglect to fulfill our spiritual life journey because we do not know how to love ourselves, much less anyone else.
When men are not allowed to be themselves and fully express their emotions, they end up releasing it in other ways. They release their emotions in the form of exercise, working on hobbies, to even participating in or being an avid spectator of sports. These are some elements of release; however, there are others such as watching TV, accessing the computer (which is something we all do, male or female), to gambling, sex, alcohol, drugs, violence, and other forms of release. Oftentimes, men are frightened by and maybe even angered by any emotions they cannot control due to their beliefs, perceptions, and experiences which taught them that expressing emotions is to be vulnerable which is risky and unacceptable.
Men and their ability to relate to others is primarily due to their belief systems, perceptions, and life experiences. If a man was never taught what it means to be in a love state with another human being, how is that man going to know how to express his emotions in a love state?
Oftentimes, a man is taught by a mate that has not been unencumbered with belief systems that are more gender-based. This assists him with his growth and development, as well as, his ability to be in-tune to his feminine essence or emotions.
If a man doesn’t have a mate that can assist him with this learning and development, he will have to experience the growth process on his own. He may never attain the love state in his lifetime if he doesn’t understand what that means and is never taught (or is unable to rediscover it himself). To be in a love state is similar to “falling in love” or “being in love”.
When men are unable to relate to their feminine essence or to their emotions and have learned to suppress their emotions, men will find a way to release those emotions and it isn’t often in a healthy manner.
Until men rediscover their Authentic Self and are balanced within in both the masculine and feminine energies, men will continue to face experiences that will require them to release their emotions in ways that are not always for the greater good of them and their well-being.
Some examples of what men may do to suppress their emotions are by abusing alcohol or drugs, by gambling, by having many different sexual partners, and the list goes on. These are all means of “releasing emotion without expressing emotion”.
Due to gender-based belief systems, men may base their emotions on ego and on the logical mind. In order to express their emotions, men must first assimilate logically. An example is when learning a new language. When we are attempting to speak a new language, we first interpret what we are going to say using our primary language. Once we have processed the words through our primary language, we are then able to translate into the new language. This is the same for men who have been taught to react logically first. In order to react emotionally, he will need to first assimilate his feelings logically.
This can be frustrating because these men realize they are not responding with the natural rhythm of the soul, their Authentic Self. They don’t understand what that means, but they do realize they are not responding naturally. They just feel it and know it; however, they have been so comfortable reacting the way that they have been taught that they oftentimes do not realize that they are focused on logical assimilation in most instances. They are reacting based on instilled beliefs about how they are to respond, or they are reacting based on what they were taught, and the list goes on and on.
Heterosexual men are taught that if they express emotions, this may be a sign of being homosexual. This is another example as to why men will hesitate to express their emotions; because they are not “allowed” to.
We are suppressing our children’s true Authentic Self when we decide for them how they should live based on gender. Men want their sons to be strong, tough, to “just handle it”, to be courageous, yet fearful of expressing his emotions. How can a man be courageous and yet be fearful of expressing his emotions? His fundamental basis for life exists of emotions too and without them, he is left floundering in an existence in which he never feels quite balanced.
Oftentimes, it is a great relationship with a partner that allows a man to truly understand and rediscover his Authentic Self. When he is allowed to be himself with his partner, only then does he truly feel secure and able to be himself. This is a backwards approach to the process of loving ourselves first in order to rediscover our Authentic Self prior to engaging in a relationship. Sometimes this approach is what is most effective particularly for men who have never had a male role model that taught them to be balanced within. If their male role models continued to substantiate their validation that a man is not to express emotion, he will continue to live his existence under the gender-based rules he was taught. It oftentimes does take partnering with a Soul Mate to assist one with the growth and development needed to rediscover their authentic self.
I believe that the journey to be balanced is much more challenging for men due to the gender-based teachings. It can be difficult for women as well and again it depends upon our upbringing, our teachings, the lessons we learned, and the experiences we had to create our perceptions of ourselves and others.
When a man is able to be balanced within without the assistance of a partner, he has truly experienced the “darkness of the soul”, the self-healing so necessary to effectively be our Authentic Selves. He has traveled this journey alone and he has mastered this for himself. Men who have learned the art of meditation, who understand the power of prayer, who are open to the balanced relationship of the masculine and feminine within and without, are the most powerful spirits there are because this journey is not for everyone. Many men choose to fight the “darkness of the soul” and suppress it with the use of the various methods we addressed previously to avoid feeling any emotion.
The “darkness of the soul” is when we become more in touch with the emotional pains that we experienced in this lifetime and/or previous lifetimes if you believe in reincarnation. This is a journey of self-discovery that allows one to finally heal. With this healing, one is then able to release and surrender these emotional pains once and for all. This is not an easy journey and when undertaken with the assistance of a loving soul or souls (such as the Soul Family), one is able to travel this path much easier.
For women, it is a bit different because women are taught that it is okay to express their emotions. As a matter of fact, girls are taught to react emotionally because when they do, they are recognized for it and they receive continuous validation that this is what is expected of them.
For example, I grew up with three brothers. I was a tomboy which means that I enjoyed participating in the same activities as my brothers. I enjoyed competitive sports, I enjoyed competing with my brothers, and I enjoyed many of the activities that parents say that boys enjoy such as playing in the dirt, riding bikes, etc. I did all of that and more. I also loved dolls and being a girl. I enjoyed both set of activities on a regular basis.
On the other hand, my brothers were taught not to express their emotions. I cried with them and helped them hide it because it wasn’t tolerated by my father as behavior that is appropriate for boys. I saw the pain my brothers experienced because they were taught to not react emotionally to anything! I realized that life was a bit easier for me because I was able to express my emotions.
The challenges women face are expressing their masculine essence. If a woman is an intellectual, not every man is going to be interested in her. She becomes a challenge because she raises insecurities within him since he is supposed to be the strong, intellectual one.
When a man is taught that a woman is to be submissive to him, he believes that she is to be the lesser of the two. He has relegated her to a role of one who does not “out-show” her man by her intelligence, wit, and her ability to relate easily with others, both male and female. Because of belief systems, this man will feel threatened by his mate. Women are aware that this will create insecurities in their man; therefore, women suppress their intellect in many instances. This doesn’t allow a woman to be her authentic self.
When women are unable to express their authenticity, it will need to be released somewhere and it is oftentimes released in the physical body. Women will experience issues with their cycles, with menopause, and their body image may be affected. When women are not allowed to be their authentic selves, they may “suffer in silence” or they may express anger regularly; however, never achieving any self-satisfaction with what is negatively impacting their lives. A woman’s hormones are directly related to her self-love and balance within. When under stress, she experiences more difficult and painful symptoms, but when in a relaxed, balanced state, she experiences less painful symptoms or maybe no symptoms at all.
Please note that my observations and spiritual thoughts that I am expressing here is not to say all men and all women react the same based on similar beliefs, perceptions, and life experiences; however, the basis of this is to illustrate many of the similar traits that exist in men and women based on these beliefs, perceptions, and life experiences primarily associated with gender-based teachings.
Both men and women suffer illnesses when they are suppressing who they really are. Remember these energies have to go somewhere…
Once we remember and rediscover what we are passionate about and what our life purpose is, we may realize that it is less gender-based that we thought if we are allowed the freedom to explore our true passions. Once we learn to express our energies in a balanced manner, we will find that men and women are more alike than they are different.
This leads us to our next chapter on how these energies are the same.
Chapter 5 – How Masculine and Feminine Energies are the same
I will keep this brief because there really isn’t much more to say than this. Masculine and Feminine Energies are the same in the sense that we are One. We live in a dualistic society which believes in dark and light, good and bad, and thus, masculine and feminine. Masculine and Feminine energies reside within and when in balance, these energies are exactly the same.
Although our masculine and feminine aspects of logic and emotion may differ in their definitions, the masculine and feminine energies are one and the same at the soul level. The soul doesn’t differentiate between the feminine and masculine aspects because at our soul level we are gender-less.
We are more alike as men and women because our entire life base, our entire structure, is built on love whether we fight it or not, accept it or not, or are balanced enough within to see it at all. Only then will we realize how very much alike we are than we are different.
We consider love as an emotion, but for me, love is the basis of our existence. Our masculine and feminine essences are the flow of energy that assists us with living our lives, relating to self, and relating to others; however, love is the foundation of our existence. As you can see, until one is free from their beliefs that created their gender-based perceptions, how is one able to truly love? In order to truly love, our masculine and feminine essences that reside within us must be balanced in order to effectively love self and others.
Chapter 6 – How to bring Balance to Self
In order to bring balance to self, we begin with forgiving ourselves of all things in our lives. Holding on to guilt prevents us from being balanced. The energies that emanate from guilt are the lowest energies we can experience. I believe that feeling guilt is the lowest point of energetic existence and the most grounded; at Point Zero.
To truly be free, we cannot harbor negative vibrations either within or without. When we cannot forgive others, we are harboring negative vibrations that have to be released somehow. These negative vibrations may be released by the use of violence, self-abuse, or any other number of ways.
The primary way is self-abuse which leads to health issues and may even take our lives! We spend too much time accepting these negative vibrations from either our own thoughts or the reactions of others that we do not see the “forest for the trees”. We cannot see what is right before us, the beauty of life, when we spend too much time in a drama-based atmosphere accepting of negativity. When we pray and ask God for forgiveness, we oftentimes forget that we are to forgive ourselves as well. Self-healing begins with forgiving ourselves of all past actions and focus on a new way of living, one that is built on a foundation of unconditional love and compassion for self and others.
We are balanced within when we are free from the past and realize that all we have is this very now moment. “We are free from the past when we stop hurting from the past.” I was once told that when we can love without hurting any longer, we have truly healed from the past. This may not be an easy task, but it is a very necessary task to complete self-healing and to be balanced, to bring both our masculine and feminine energies in balance within ourselves.
When we are our authentic selves, we are who we have always been, but were afraid to be because of our beliefs which labeled us by human standards rather than the magnificent soul that we are. We also identified ourselves by all things external to us which prevented us from truly recognizing who we are.
It is our beliefs that do not allow us to be free, to reach within for the answers to all things. We were created as powerful beings filled with love and compassion; however, it is our beliefs that limited our ability to remember this and allow us to come full circle into the realm of unconditional love and compassion.
The balance of ONE within is the path to true freedom. As we remember who we are and as we begin to lighten our load of beliefs and perceptions from our life (and previous lives if you believe in reincarnation) experiences, we then begin to truly see who we are, our Authentic Self.
As we begin to rediscover our Authentic Self, we can enhance the experience and progress by exercising with the “I AM” statements. I AM statements can be whatever you choose. Some examples would be I AM Happy, I AM Free, I AM Beautiful, and so on. Practice your I AM statements daily. For me, looking into the mirror and really seeing yourself is an important step. Stop focusing on what you don’t like and focus on what you love about you. Do you love your eyes, your nose, your dimples, your smile, or whatever? Find something about you to appreciate and hold that thought. Be all you can be by being your Authentic Self using the I AM statements to assist you with manifesting who you know yourself to be.
Each day, begin with a few minutes of positive affirmations and practice breathing. I know we all naturally breathe, but many of us breathe too shallow to allow the energies to engage within us. Try deep breathing exercises by breathing in to a slow count of 5 and out to a slow count of 5. Do this a few times and you will already feel yourself relaxing. Be in touch with you, be in the moment, go outside and breathe fresh air, embrace nature, and just be; always in a state of gratitude and appreciation.
The key is to just BE. To just BE is to allow ourselves to relax fully and completely. It is a state of being that allows communication with Spirit, with God, with your higher power whatever this may mean for you.
As stated previously, I would recommend at least 10-15 minutes of meditation or prayer daily in which you allow complete stillness, to be at peace, and to release all thoughts from your mind. In spending time in meditation or prayer, we allow ourselves to become free of any external distractions. We are focused on our own breathing, the rhythms of our bodies, and just allowing ourselves to feel the freedom that has always been available to us. With the freedom within, we are truly free to be ourselves, our Authentic Self.
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April 10th, 2010
As we journey through life, we find that obstacles appear to blanket our path with an appearance of black and white to intermingle with the gray. It doesn’t really matter because we find that these obstacles are truly of our own making. We created them for innumerable reasons, but primarily to experience the richness of every moment in which we are challenged and/or have a reason to risk it all for whatever we value most in our soul. What we find is that without unconditional love, we are continuing to forage through our path finding destruction upon every twist and turn of this myriad of illusions we call life. When we open up to unconditional love in every aspect of our life, we have truly achieved the Triumph of the Spirit.
Have you noticed that when things are flowing smoothly and you have everything or most things you desire, your first thought is what’s next? The human nature is always in a state of desire for one thing or another. Once we achieve one goal, we are ready to pursue the next and the next. This is the unquenchable thirst imbedded in the heart and soul of every single human. Some have given up on even trying anymore and others have decided that the war was lost long ago. What a sad state of affairs because they have truly given up before they have even set sail on this voyage we call life…why do people do this? Because the pain of disappointment and sorrow can be so difficult to overcome, that it may take lifetimes before one has truly healed enough to walk their path alone…with confidence…and always with unconditional love and compassion for self and others…
When the road is difficult and the climb is treacherous, we tend to give up as well. We are tired of the road much traveled; however, we are comfortable there and we find ourselves fearful of the road less traveled. When God placed humans upon this planet, it was to learn and experience, to grow stronger spiritually, to maintain and sustain while precariously perched on the fence between being human and being our true authentic self…not one and the same…at least until we learn how to balance both by being balanced within (both masculine and feminine) and balanced in our relationships with others.
To triumph as a human, to successfully attain the level of Spirit, is to learn and understand what it means to truly love unconditionally. Yes conditions (to include boundaries and restrictions) may be necessary when faced with negativity, jealousy, envy, hate, and all the other negative emotions; however, until one truly understands and “knows” what unconditional love means, one finds the road most traveled becomes strewn with debris of our own making…if only we would pay attention to the signs apparent all around us, we could have saved ourselves much angst as we move in the flow of life. When we release ourselves from our fear-based emotions, we find that we are ready to walk the path less traveled because we know that ultimately we will find our true happiness by releasing ourselves from the comfort zone, to move forward in the love zone…
Enjoy the rest of your life with a knowing that you love you unconditionally and with that, you are able to love others unconditionally as well. With this wisdom that has always resided within you, you will truly overcome obstacles and challenges, face your fears head-on, and you will awaken one day truly triumphant in Spirit…much blessings and love always…
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March 8th, 2010
How does a Man Love?
By Cheryl F. Batoon
How does a Man Love?
A Man loves with all of his Heart
A Man feels the intensity of the Heart
A Man has been taught to fight his intuition;
Therefore, a Man focuses on his instincts instead
A Man loves with his mind first
Because he was told that was the only way
A Man is focused on the physical world
Because he was told it was all that existed
However, A Man knows
That the physical world is just an illusion
A Man knows that the Heart is the conclusion
A Man loves with his entire being
A Man knows what this means
A Man focuses on sensations
Because he is attached to the physical;
A Man understands True Love
A Man gravitates to True Love;
However, A Man is reminded to follow his Mate
A Man is pulled down by this weight
A Man struggles with what he was taught and now sees
A Man is healing from all the hurts and wounds
A Man is releasing all he was taught about love or the lack of
A Man, once healed, seeks Balance
A Man always knew of Balance, he just forgot
A Man knows love and once experienced with a Mate
He is vulnerable and he knows it
Once A Man submits to love, his Heart is wide open
A Man loves deeply because he knows it
A Man loves with all his being
A Man knows no other way to BE…
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March 8th, 2010
How does a Woman Love?
By Cheryl F. Batoon
How does a Woman Love?
A Woman loves with each breath she takes
A Woman gives of her love abundantly
A Woman loves as a nurturing being
A Woman knows what is always in her best interest
A Woman expresses through her intuition
A Woman’s Heart is always open;
However it is a Woman’s Mind that may be closed
A Woman’s focus is on attainment
Of the goals she has had in her heart since she was a child
A Woman faces tremendous healing
From past life hurts and wounds
A Woman understands Balance
Because a Woman’s body was made in Balance
A Woman forgets Balance
When she is reminded she is a Woman
A Woman knows True Love
A Woman recognizes True Love
Once she remembers Balance
When a Woman is told of her weaknesses as a woman
She forgets Balance
A woman loves with all she is
A Woman values her loved ones
A Woman loves her Mate intensely
A Woman creates the Mate for her
A Woman always knows what is best for her
If she can just remember
A Woman gives of her heart to her Mate
A Woman submits to her Mate
A Woman submits her Heart first
A Woman’s Mind and Body follow close suit
A Woman loves with all her Being
A Woman knows no other way to BE…
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March 2nd, 2010
Today, I felt inspired to write about Unconditional Love and the Choices that we make in our relationships. Have you ever made a decision and later regretted it with the hopes of retracting what you said or did? Why did you make the decision in the first place? What was your driver? Was it your ego/mind or your heart? This is very important because seldom is a decision or choice ever made from the heart that one regrets later.
When we speak of unconditional love, we are speaking of a love that has no conditions whether this love is for a person, place, or thing (such as our passions). Your choice to love was decided long ago so why are you now placing conditions on that love? The primary reason is the ego/mind. The ego/mind dictates to us that we are feeling a sense of lack or need. We feel as if we are not being given what we feel we lack or need. This is the bottom line and the biggest reason for regrets in relationships.
Why do we choose to go the path of the ego/mind when we have known that this path has never served us? Why do we repeat the same patterns expecting a different outcome? When we release the need to dictate conditions and when we stop looking at only what we feel and think about a situation or relationship, only then are we able to see clearly and to understand that our decisions and choices are here to be made with unconditional love. If we choose any other route, we will find that we have regrets.
I have received responses to this thought from those who believe that when you follow the heart, you are destined for pain and suffering. The reason we would believe this to be the case is because we associate the heart with pain and suffering. It is not the heart that causes suffering and pain; it is the ego/mind. It is the ego/mind that requires healing, not the heart.
The heart is resilient, the heart is courageous, the heart always “knows” because the heart is your soul. Your soul always knows ALL, but it is your ego/mind that questions. An open heart is one that will overcome all negativity. An open heart is able to see clearly. An open heart is filled with love for self first and foremost and with that, the open heart doesn’t need to reach for the ego/mind to justify its existence.
Unconditional love is a challenge for many because we have been taught to believe that if one doesn’t react the way we would prefer or doesn’t take the actions that we expect, we are to withdraw our love from them. Why is this? This is because one is focused on the ego/mind and one is choosing not to express their authentic self. When we make a decision that brings sorrow and pain to us, haven’t we made a choice that is contrary to our authentic selves? Our authentic selves thrive on joy and happiness, unconditional love and compassion. Our authentic selves suffer when we make choices contrary to our heart as well.
Have you ever ended a relationship because of your ego? Have you ever walked out of a situation because of your ego? Have you ever suffered in your relationships because of your ego? Are you even aware that it is your ego that is the leader in any event that breeds negativity, contentiousness, and animosity?
The ego/mind has its place in our existence because with our ego/mind, we take actions required to achieve our passions. The ego/mind is instrumental in reaching our zenith because without the ego/mind, we might not get dressed every day. The ego/mind keeps you moving and focused on your goals; however, the ego/mind can also cause crises and issues with your goals. It is truly a balance of the ego/mind and heart that creates abundance in our lives.
Our ego/mind is where thoughts are born. When we heal ourselves of the limitations of ego and allow our mind and heart to be engaged in a balanced alignment of energy, we have reached the space and place where our choices are made with unconditional love.
Walk your life path by focusing on making choices centered in the balanced arena of the heart and the ego/mind…always with unconditional love…
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